Making up for lost time

Friends come and go but to a few you should hold on... She is one such friend. I let go, but hopefully we might be able to move on from the rather lengthy interlude that our friendship has seen, and apparently survived. I feel blessed to have had an opportunity to offer a sincere amend, but know all too well that words carry far less value than actions, and intend to now live my amend. Time has passed, and we have both grown, but time will tell whether we can overcome the distance that has arisen in the gap.

Friendship is precious though not always easy. The best friendships are perhaps those that do weather a few storms, and whilst I wouldn't have chosen the particular variety of weather conditions ours has endured, the foundations have been exposed highlighting their strength and resilience. We all of us have choices. As adults, we have rights and inherent within those, responsibilities. Today I recognise that to boast a friend is an enormous privilege. Sure enough, we will tread on one another's toes from time to time. We must now learn to dance again, though this time perhaps to a rather different tune.

"A friend is one who knows you and likes you anyway"

Elbert Hubbard

"Friendship is a single soul growing in two bodies"

Aristotle

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